This confidential space is for those who are touched by abortion, whether the experience happened recently or years ago.
Your Abortion Experience is a refuge for those who wish to tell their story and begin to make sense of their experience.
We understand that each experience is unique and can elicit different emotions and reactions. Please know that you are welcome here and that you are not alone.
Your Friends at YourAbortionExperience.org
Thank you for visiting. I’m so glad you’re here. I especially welcome visitors who have personally experienced abortion—whether it was your own or the abortion of someone close to you. This Web site is close to my heart because I’ve been there.
When I became pregnant at 18, I had an abortion.
While every person's experience is unique, I was completely unprepared for the emotional fallout. I thought the abortion would erase the pregnancy. I thought I could move on with my life. I was wrong.
I experienced periods of intense anger followed by periods of profound sadness. When my feelings became too difficult to deal with, I reached out for help from a trained counselor.
With counseling and the help of supportive friends, I was able to enter into a healthy grieving process.
As I grieved the loss of my child, I slowly became aware of how the abortion impacted my family. I was surprised and saddened that my parents, my sister, and even my living children struggled to deal with the loss of a family member through abortion.
I have found that although abortion has touched many of us, we rarely share our personal experiences regarding it. Yet we often long for a safe place to be heard, to be understood, to have the space to make sense of what happened.
This website is meant to be that space – a refuge, a safe haven, a place where you can privately reflect on what’s happened, find resources, and move through the healing process at your own pace.
However you found yourself here—and whatever your experience may be—please know that you are welcome here and that you are not alone.
Dr. Michaelene Fredenburg
President and CEO
Institute of Reproductive Grief Care
Email us at: contact@YourAbortionExperience.org
Institute of Reproductive Grief Care
PO Box 600533
San Diego, CA 92160-0533
Should you have any questions or concerns about the information we collect at YourAbortionExperience.org please feel free to contact us directly at contact@YourAbortionExperience.org or you can contact Institute of Reproductive Grief Care at (619) 516-1236 Monday through Friday between 8 a.m. and 4:30 p.m. PST.
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